love/lust spell gone wrong?
love/lust spell gone wrong?
Don't know if I need to state the obvious, but I am a beginner in spellcasting, therefore I hope that a few initial mistakes could be forgiven [blush]
My question is: has anyone had similar experience with casting a love/lust spell and instead of getting the desired result, the subject started becoming ellusive or avoiding you (reducing contact)?
What could have happened or what might be the causes and what would the more experienced of you advise me to do in this case?
My question is: has anyone had similar experience with casting a love/lust spell and instead of getting the desired result, the subject started becoming ellusive or avoiding you (reducing contact)?
What could have happened or what might be the causes and what would the more experienced of you advise me to do in this case?
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Amorte!
The results you got does not mean that your spell went "wrong". The person may begun to develop a feeling for you, but if she/he is inherently shy or suffering from low self-esteem (physical look has nothing to do with it) they will act in such a teenager-ish manner. They may be scared that their feeling are "wrong" and will only suffer if they choose to pursue them.
Smile often, be gentle and not intrusive, don't act like an asshole (seriously... when I am hearing what people are saying to each other sometimes...).
Saying gentle compliments that appear to be unintended, like "you look great in this dress" will also help.
As for the magic, my advise is to remember that formula "she loves me" doesn't work as good as "I am her ideal person". Love is a very high energetic feeling and would require a lot of sustenance. Making someone understand that you are the "perfect one" will kick start all this love processes within mind and the body, and the feeling will be sustained by the person in question.
Regards,
The results you got does not mean that your spell went "wrong". The person may begun to develop a feeling for you, but if she/he is inherently shy or suffering from low self-esteem (physical look has nothing to do with it) they will act in such a teenager-ish manner. They may be scared that their feeling are "wrong" and will only suffer if they choose to pursue them.
Smile often, be gentle and not intrusive, don't act like an asshole (seriously... when I am hearing what people are saying to each other sometimes...).
Saying gentle compliments that appear to be unintended, like "you look great in this dress" will also help.
As for the magic, my advise is to remember that formula "she loves me" doesn't work as good as "I am her ideal person". Love is a very high energetic feeling and would require a lot of sustenance. Making someone understand that you are the "perfect one" will kick start all this love processes within mind and the body, and the feeling will be sustained by the person in question.
Regards,
Great things have small beginnings.
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Excellent answer Evander. [thumbup]
Especially this part,a thousand times over....QFT.
Especially this part,a thousand times over....QFT.
As for the magic, my advise is to remember that formula "she loves me" doesn't work as good as "I am her ideal person". Love is a very high energetic feeling and would require a lot of sustenance. Making someone understand that you are the "perfect one" will kick start all this love processes within mind and the body, and the feeling will be sustained by the person in question.
"He lived his words, spoke his own actions and his story and the story of the world ran parallel."
Sartre speaking of Che Guevara.
Sartre speaking of Che Guevara.
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Thank you Evander & Nahemah,
I'm actually a she - sorry I forgot to mention [tongue2] and the 'subject' in question is a guy friend of mine.
Now I'm not a teenager (29) and not a hopeless romantic or as such, I knew I'm too new to all this and shouldn't be dabbling with stuff I know so little about, but... so far feelings have repeatedly got the best of my judgement when it comes to this friend of mine...
This is the 2nd time I f**k up in the same way and I only hope that I've learned my lesson this time. I pulled the same stupid stunt 1/2 year ago with the same guy and the same happened: he almost cut contact with me altogether for a couple of weeks and I missed him like hell! When things returned to normal, he said that he'd been terribly busy with exams&work, but he didn't seem very sincere...
We get along so well usually and I have more than a crush on him. I know that he likes me too, he's very funny, sweet & supportive and the chemistry is the best I've had with anyone, but... it seems that I can't get him to want me as anything more than a buddy. It might have something to do with the fact that we are both still involved with other people (at least officially)..
I still remember how I panicked the first time he went AWOL after i did the spell and I couldn't get in touch with him for days and now I feel like s**t for knowing that this would happen, yet repeating the mistake with the same spell!
I can't stop wondering how exactly does the spell affect his perception of me and of course, most of all... why doesn't it work the way I intend it to??
Thanks again and best wishes,
I'm actually a she - sorry I forgot to mention [tongue2] and the 'subject' in question is a guy friend of mine.
Now I'm not a teenager (29) and not a hopeless romantic or as such, I knew I'm too new to all this and shouldn't be dabbling with stuff I know so little about, but... so far feelings have repeatedly got the best of my judgement when it comes to this friend of mine...
This is the 2nd time I f**k up in the same way and I only hope that I've learned my lesson this time. I pulled the same stupid stunt 1/2 year ago with the same guy and the same happened: he almost cut contact with me altogether for a couple of weeks and I missed him like hell! When things returned to normal, he said that he'd been terribly busy with exams&work, but he didn't seem very sincere...
We get along so well usually and I have more than a crush on him. I know that he likes me too, he's very funny, sweet & supportive and the chemistry is the best I've had with anyone, but... it seems that I can't get him to want me as anything more than a buddy. It might have something to do with the fact that we are both still involved with other people (at least officially)..
I still remember how I panicked the first time he went AWOL after i did the spell and I couldn't get in touch with him for days and now I feel like s**t for knowing that this would happen, yet repeating the mistake with the same spell!
I can't stop wondering how exactly does the spell affect his perception of me and of course, most of all... why doesn't it work the way I intend it to??
Thanks again and best wishes,
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I didn't offer anything of value,I just echoed what Evander said,so it's kind of you to thank me too.
Perhaps a change in your demenour and reactions when you've cast the spell makes him uncomfortable around you.I 'd wager he knows you quite well anyway and he might also be psychically sensitive or naturally guarded against attempts to influence him like this.
Perhaps this guy will never return your feelings in the same way.It could be that he knows how you feel,but dosen't reciprocate and that is why when you 'push it' magickally ,he retreats.
I can't say for sure,as it could very well be equally true that he is confused or held back by other involvements,as you describe.
If he loves you already but only as a friend,then the friendship might suffer if you keep pushing for more.However if you don't find out you could become miserable if you keep on wanting more than friendship,unrequited.
If he is interested but unavailable by commitment,than that is also a quandary,as both parties may end up miserable by repression.
Have you considered the awkward conversation? That one where you open up about how you feel,in person?
It would resolve the isssue,either way,but could mean the end of the friendship.Only you can decide if that is worth the risk.
I am speaking from personal experience in this.
I have now been with my partner for 11 happy years,but we needed that conversation.There was a strong friendship between us and an undercurrent of attraction,in a sexual sense,but it was confusing and we both gave off mixed signals.
We took turns at retreat and advance and everything went in circles until the moment,when that conversation happened.
It worked well for me,but it dosen't always go this way,I know.
I was 34 at the time, so I know this is not a matter of youth and or naivety,just saying. [thumbup] [grin]
Perhaps a change in your demenour and reactions when you've cast the spell makes him uncomfortable around you.I 'd wager he knows you quite well anyway and he might also be psychically sensitive or naturally guarded against attempts to influence him like this.
Perhaps this guy will never return your feelings in the same way.It could be that he knows how you feel,but dosen't reciprocate and that is why when you 'push it' magickally ,he retreats.
I can't say for sure,as it could very well be equally true that he is confused or held back by other involvements,as you describe.
If he loves you already but only as a friend,then the friendship might suffer if you keep pushing for more.However if you don't find out you could become miserable if you keep on wanting more than friendship,unrequited.
If he is interested but unavailable by commitment,than that is also a quandary,as both parties may end up miserable by repression.
Have you considered the awkward conversation? That one where you open up about how you feel,in person?
It would resolve the isssue,either way,but could mean the end of the friendship.Only you can decide if that is worth the risk.
I am speaking from personal experience in this.
I have now been with my partner for 11 happy years,but we needed that conversation.There was a strong friendship between us and an undercurrent of attraction,in a sexual sense,but it was confusing and we both gave off mixed signals.
We took turns at retreat and advance and everything went in circles until the moment,when that conversation happened.
It worked well for me,but it dosen't always go this way,I know.
I was 34 at the time, so I know this is not a matter of youth and or naivety,just saying. [thumbup] [grin]
"He lived his words, spoke his own actions and his story and the story of the world ran parallel."
Sartre speaking of Che Guevara.
Sartre speaking of Che Guevara.
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Amorte!
Nahemah made a lot of good points.
- You say, that the two of you are otherwise involved. This is a serious hindrance, even if the guy does shares your feelings, he may choose not to pursuit them due to his and your current relation.
And why are you even involved with someone else if you had such a feeling for that guy?
- What is the exact nature and strength of his relation?
- What may block him from reacting as you want him to?
- How it will look like for both of you if you will become couple? Do you have a mental picture of you and your former partners?
- How exactly you performed your spell (what was it's intended result?)
Situation can be resolved in many ways, starting with direct kill curses and up to inviting someone for a dinner. Most probably you will need to use visualization and energy transfer to somehow override things blocking his reactions towards you.
Answering your original question - on some occasions people will be affected by the spell, but will fail to react in any way. All their feelings will remain in their heads and their hearts. What is sometimes needed is this extra nudge that will cause them to act. It is not very difficult to achieve in terms of using magic.
Regards,
Nahemah made a lot of good points.
First, you need to consider what is really going on here. A honest, even if brutal, assessment of the situation is needed.asyrinx wrote:Thank you Evander & Nahemah,
Now I'm not a teenager (29) and not a hopeless romantic or as such, I knew I'm too new to all this and shouldn't be dabbling with stuff I know so little about, but... so far feelings have repeatedly got the best of my judgement when it comes to this friend of mine...
This is the 2nd time I f**k up in the same way and I only hope that I've learned my lesson this time. I pulled the same stupid stunt 1/2 year ago with the same guy and the same happened: he almost cut contact with me altogether for a couple of weeks and I missed him like hell! When things returned to normal, he said that he'd been terribly busy with exams&work, but he didn't seem very sincere...
We get along so well usually and I have more than a crush on him. I know that he likes me too, he's very funny, sweet & supportive and the chemistry is the best I've had with anyone, but... it seems that I can't get him to want me as anything more than a buddy. It might have something to do with the fact that we are both still involved with other people (at least officially)..
I still remember how I panicked the first time he went AWOL after i did the spell and I couldn't get in touch with him for days and now I feel like s**t for knowing that this would happen, yet repeating the mistake with the same spell!
I can't stop wondering how exactly does the spell affect his perception of me and of course, most of all... why doesn't it work the way I intend it to??
Thanks again and best wishes,
- You say, that the two of you are otherwise involved. This is a serious hindrance, even if the guy does shares your feelings, he may choose not to pursuit them due to his and your current relation.
And why are you even involved with someone else if you had such a feeling for that guy?
- What is the exact nature and strength of his relation?
- What may block him from reacting as you want him to?
- How it will look like for both of you if you will become couple? Do you have a mental picture of you and your former partners?
- How exactly you performed your spell (what was it's intended result?)
Situation can be resolved in many ways, starting with direct kill curses and up to inviting someone for a dinner. Most probably you will need to use visualization and energy transfer to somehow override things blocking his reactions towards you.
Answering your original question - on some occasions people will be affected by the spell, but will fail to react in any way. All their feelings will remain in their heads and their hearts. What is sometimes needed is this extra nudge that will cause them to act. It is not very difficult to achieve in terms of using magic.
Regards,
Great things have small beginnings.
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Thanks again Evander and Nahemah, you are both great!
Your replies were food for thought, I read them quite a few times and spent some time considering your points
It does make a lot of sense that it didn't turn out the way I wanted it, especially if I take into account one more (important) aspect: since we met I noticed that we have an almost freakishly high level of affinity, by which I mean we share an overwhelming number of similarities: things that we like (types of music, movies, books, art) interests, hobbies, political/religious/social views, even peculiarities about food or some mannerisms and vocabulary! And this is not something dissimulated to seem polite or compatible or as such - it was stuff that our common friends knew about us and information that was already listed on our Facebook profiles when we met... What's weirder is that there have been several occasions when I thought about a song or movie during the day and when I opened my FB account in the evening he had already posted a link to it or asked me if i'd watched it... or sometimes I thought about him wondering what he's doing and he IM'd me after a couple of minutes...I haven't had so much in common with anyone before, not even with my oldest & closest friends, so it's quite understandable that i went from being fascinated about him to having deeper feelings for him. Add some hard-to-ignore physical attraction to that and you have the picture...
I avoid using terms like 'connection' or 'soulmate' because I think they're too corny and I don't believe in any of them, but if indeed this guyfriend of mine has some sort of psychic sensitivity, as you say, could it be possible that he got a 'feeling' of what I was doing even before the spell had any chance to have an effect on him...and maybe his intuition tells me that I'm untrustworthy/manipulative and that he should stay away from me?
Your replies were food for thought, I read them quite a few times and spent some time considering your points
This in particular rang a bell. I've just now took the time to do a little internet research on the ethics of love spells and found that the most common point of view on targeted love/lust spells is that they are unethical, manipulative (being the operative word) and frequently backfire [sadface]Nahemah wrote:Perhaps a change in your demenour and reactions when you've cast the spell makes him uncomfortable around you.I 'd wager he knows you quite well anyway and he might also be psychically sensitive or naturally guarded against attempts to influence him like this.
It does make a lot of sense that it didn't turn out the way I wanted it, especially if I take into account one more (important) aspect: since we met I noticed that we have an almost freakishly high level of affinity, by which I mean we share an overwhelming number of similarities: things that we like (types of music, movies, books, art) interests, hobbies, political/religious/social views, even peculiarities about food or some mannerisms and vocabulary! And this is not something dissimulated to seem polite or compatible or as such - it was stuff that our common friends knew about us and information that was already listed on our Facebook profiles when we met... What's weirder is that there have been several occasions when I thought about a song or movie during the day and when I opened my FB account in the evening he had already posted a link to it or asked me if i'd watched it... or sometimes I thought about him wondering what he's doing and he IM'd me after a couple of minutes...I haven't had so much in common with anyone before, not even with my oldest & closest friends, so it's quite understandable that i went from being fascinated about him to having deeper feelings for him. Add some hard-to-ignore physical attraction to that and you have the picture...
I avoid using terms like 'connection' or 'soulmate' because I think they're too corny and I don't believe in any of them, but if indeed this guyfriend of mine has some sort of psychic sensitivity, as you say, could it be possible that he got a 'feeling' of what I was doing even before the spell had any chance to have an effect on him...and maybe his intuition tells me that I'm untrustworthy/manipulative and that he should stay away from me?

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I was already in a relationship when I met him and I'm still in this relationship for several reason: first of all, my current partner is the father of my only daughter and.. to make a long story short, it's quite clear to us both that we wouldn't be still together if it wasn't for our child - we really have nothing in common except our love for the child and our responsability towards her... then there's my partner's psychological condition - he's had issues with addiction in the past and he's managed to not return there for almost 6 years now only because he's had us (me & our daughter).Evander wrote: And why are you even involved with someone else if you had such a feeling for that guy?
I don't know exactly, he's never given me details about his personal life, he only mentions his girlfriend now and then when we plan to go out, but I've never met her in person. I don't even know if he's changed girlfriends since I met him.Evander wrote:- What is the exact nature and strength of his relation?
He's been childhood friends with my partner, then they went to college in different cities and got in touch again a year ago, when we all moved in the same city. The fact that he's known my partner for so many years and that I'm the mother of his only child could be a serious reason, I'm well aware of it....Evander wrote:- What may block him from reacting as you want him to?
To be honest, I don't know... I know from experience that in romantic relationships people tend to sometimes open 'Pandora's boxes' that their partners had no idea existed when they were just friends...And it would most probably not be easy since we're not 2 single people with no baggage...Evander wrote:- How it will look like for both of you if you will become couple? Do you have a mental picture of you and your former partners?
ooh... it's so silly that I don't even want to remember... and it was equally stupid of me to perform it without prior research, just because I had heard from someone that it would work... I didn't even consider the fact that the person who recommended it to me didn't use as subject a friend (like I did) - she just wanted a fling and that's what she got...Evander wrote:- How exactly you performed your spell (what was it's intended result?)
I guess that I felt justified (in my mind) to do it when I remembered some strange occurences from the first months after I met this guy: I had quite a few VERY vivid, tiresome dreams about him (yes, some were sex dreams) and a couple of instances when I had something similar to panick out of the blue because I couldn't be near him at that moment... Very weird and unprecedented and disturbing to me because I've never been through something like that before... I used to think that I was a level-minded person until these things happened - I honestly wasn't even slightly interested in the occult prior to this! - I still can't find an explanation for what I felt, I don't know if he did something intentionally to cause that or not - I couldn't just go to him and ask him 'hey, did you do some energy stuff on me?' [confused2] ... people don't do that, at least not in my part of the world...
In any case, my only conclusion now is that it was stupid of me to act on impulse (be it revenge, need, impatience, whatever) and that nothing really justifies being vengeful and manipulative like I tried to be and what I need to focus on right now is ways of trying to reverse the damage and to maybe cleanse myself of negativity so that I don't find myself falling in the same trap yet again.
All the best,
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Amorte asyrinx!
Let me show you an example. Four people spend their lives dedicating their effort to what they did best. Now they want to make the other person love them.
A sportsman can dedicate his victories to the person he is interested in. An artist can sing a song or write a poem to impress her. A businessman can provide wealth and sense of security.
So what a fourth guy, a mage will do? Just stand around and look silly?
After years of dedication to an art of magic or when we have a great talent for it, it is right and just to use magic to ensure ones wealth and well-being. In fact, you are expected to do certain things with the use of magic.
By it's definition a Mage should be a king and a priest, ruling over himself and arcane powers - as such, wealth and honours belong to him, as the shack belongs to the dog.
Things just got more complicated.
In your situation, however, there is something you need to do first, before doing anything else.
Meditate upon your current situation.
Both options are just as bad - either forgetting about your feelings and living your only life with someone you don't really love, or choosing to do something about it.
In later case there are many people involved, and if you choose this path, you should create a complete picture of change that needs to occur and how the end results will look like.
I see that you will need to learn a little bit more about visualisation, meditation and directing energy, but otherwise this situation can be solved in your favour.
An example: your current partner had problem with addiction. You fear, that after breaking up with him he will return to that. But you can use visualisation to make him go exactly the opposite way - so that after he loses you he will decide to *never* ever use that addictive substance again.
I was about to say, that it is not really in necromancers job description to help other people with life, love and happiness, but then I though about casting curses and how it can solve many problems - so I will not say that.
Instead, I would like to recommend you find someone older and wiser with some experience in techniques mentioned above and with experience in solving such life problems. Nahemah looks like someone who can provide valuable insights. As for me, I can aid you with more details about techniques in question.
Regards,
This is one of the most dangerous destructive self-suggestion that you can absorb, and it will sabotage your spells. And this is also a lie, because you are manipulating people on daily basis, for example when trying to convince them in conversation to see things your way.asyrinx wrote: This in particular rang a bell. I've just now took the time to do a little internet research on the ethics of love spells and found that the most common point of view on targeted love/lust spells is that they are unethical, manipulative (being the operative word) and frequently backfire [sadface]
Let me show you an example. Four people spend their lives dedicating their effort to what they did best. Now they want to make the other person love them.
A sportsman can dedicate his victories to the person he is interested in. An artist can sing a song or write a poem to impress her. A businessman can provide wealth and sense of security.
So what a fourth guy, a mage will do? Just stand around and look silly?
After years of dedication to an art of magic or when we have a great talent for it, it is right and just to use magic to ensure ones wealth and well-being. In fact, you are expected to do certain things with the use of magic.
By it's definition a Mage should be a king and a priest, ruling over himself and arcane powers - as such, wealth and honours belong to him, as the shack belongs to the dog.
Then you have more than 4 people to worry about. It may be that your little kid was the mental blockade for you while casting spell ("what will happen to her") or to this guy if he knows ("she won't leave her daughter") etc.I was already in a relationship when I met him and I'm still in this relationship for several reason: first of all, my current partner is the father of my only daughter and.. to make a long story short, it's quite clear to us both that we wouldn't be still together if it wasn't for our child - we really have nothing in common except our love for the child and our responsability towards her... then there's my partner's psychological condition - he's had issues with addiction in the past and he's managed to not return there for almost 6 years now only because he's had us (me & our daughter).
Things just got more complicated.
And this is very likely the real reason. You will have to speak to him, not in one big conversation, but step by step... explaining your situation in some way which will help your cause.He's been childhood friends with my partner, then they went to college in different cities and got in touch again a year ago, when we all moved in the same city. The fact that he's known my partner for so many years and that I'm the mother of his only child could be a serious reason, I'm well aware of it....
It is a part of Good Magical Practice to make sure we know what we want to achieve with spells. Just "love me!" isn't enough. "Love me" - where and how?To be honest, I don't know... I know from experience that in romantic relationships people tend to sometimes open 'Pandora's boxes' that their partners had no idea existed when they were just friends...And it would most probably not be easy since we're not 2 single people with no baggage...
Sometimes actions under the impulse can have greater results than average rituals. Love and desire are both very highly energetic feelings and they, when directed, can cause change.ooh... it's so silly that I don't even want to remember... and it was equally stupid of me to perform it without prior research, just because I had heard from someone that it would work... I didn't even consider the fact that the person who recommended it to me didn't use as subject a friend (like I did) - she just wanted a fling and that's what she got...
I guess that I felt justified (in my mind) to do it when I remembered some strange occurences from the first months after I met this guy: I had quite a few VERY vivid, tiresome dreams about him (yes, some were sex dreams) and a couple of instances when I had something similar to panick out of the blue because I couldn't be near him at that moment... Very weird and unprecedented and disturbing to me because I've never been through something like that before... I used to think that I was a level-minded person until these things happened - I honestly wasn't even slightly interested in the occult prior to this! - I still can't find an explanation for what I felt, I don't know if he did something intentionally to cause that or not - I couldn't just go to him and ask him 'hey, did you do some energy stuff on me?' [confused2] ... people don't do that, at least not in my part of the world...
In any case, my only conclusion now is that it was stupid of me to act on impulse (be it revenge, need, impatience, whatever) and that nothing really justifies being vengeful and manipulative like I tried to be and what I need to focus on right now is ways of trying to reverse the damage and to maybe cleanse myself of negativity so that I don't find myself falling in the same trap yet again.
In your situation, however, there is something you need to do first, before doing anything else.
Meditate upon your current situation.
Both options are just as bad - either forgetting about your feelings and living your only life with someone you don't really love, or choosing to do something about it.
In later case there are many people involved, and if you choose this path, you should create a complete picture of change that needs to occur and how the end results will look like.
I see that you will need to learn a little bit more about visualisation, meditation and directing energy, but otherwise this situation can be solved in your favour.
An example: your current partner had problem with addiction. You fear, that after breaking up with him he will return to that. But you can use visualisation to make him go exactly the opposite way - so that after he loses you he will decide to *never* ever use that addictive substance again.
I was about to say, that it is not really in necromancers job description to help other people with life, love and happiness, but then I though about casting curses and how it can solve many problems - so I will not say that.
Instead, I would like to recommend you find someone older and wiser with some experience in techniques mentioned above and with experience in solving such life problems. Nahemah looks like someone who can provide valuable insights. As for me, I can aid you with more details about techniques in question.
Regards,
Great things have small beginnings.
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I'm in the habit of enjoying giving my two cents, but I think Evander and Nameah have already smed it up perfectly
Self,assurance and the ability to give others the same is the most powerful tool anyone can ever have. Period. Feel confident and learn, and the rest will cone together.
Zeon.
Self,assurance and the ability to give others the same is the most powerful tool anyone can ever have. Period. Feel confident and learn, and the rest will cone together.
Zeon.
And when the eye of the storm arrives, the flock shall emerge and prepare, for though ultimate damnation await, they shall not give in to sorrow and despair, but look to the horizon with faith, perserverance, and determination.
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This might have been said, but maybe the simplest answer is he might like you regardless of the love spell, but is a decent guy who doesn't think its right to be hitting on or hanging out with someone who is already in a relationship with someone and who also has a child with them.
I am the Watcher.
I am the Wanderer.
I am the Whisper.
I am the Warden.
I am the Weaver.
I am the Wanderer.
I am the Whisper.
I am the Warden.
I am the Weaver.
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I completely agree with you, Evander. I've been feeling too that that's what I need to learn before anything else. You've already been so kind to invest some of your time in advising me with my issue, so I wouldn't dare ask you to guide me through the process...but if you could recommend me some resources for individual study, I'd be more than gladEvander wrote:
I see that you will need to learn a little bit more about visualisation, meditation and directing energy, but otherwise this situation can be solved in your favour.

Thanks to Zeon1985 and Stukov, this is exactly why I decided to come and discuss my problem here - for a new perspective - so any input is appreciated.
All the best,