Scary Situation I'm in. Please Help!

[jennyv]

Hi there. I need some help and I will start with some background information. I am a single mother of two children (ages 4 and 7). My marriage ended in divorce, due to my husband's infidelity. He basically dumped me for another woman. I share custody with my ex-husband. My ex-husband continued his relationship with this woman for three years, then they broke up in August of 2012. After the break up, my children told me "secrets" that their dad told them they were not allowed to tell me. My kids told me that the girlfriend would call me names in front of them and the kids would cry. She was constantly yelling at my ex in front of them and very demanding. It seems as though she was demanding when the children were around so he would take the attention off of them and put it back on her. She was extremely jealous of them and jealous of me as well. My ex had told her in front of the kids that he loved me still several times and she would just scream and call me names in front of the kids. When they were together, she would not allow him to talk to me. All communication was done in email and she would respond to my emails. He wasn't even allowed to talk to his own parents. Well anyway, this relationship ended. He told me that she used him a lot. He did everything for her and she would ask him to do things for her in exchange for sex. He said she was constantly mad at him and all her ex boyfriends called her evil. Everyone said they knew he loved me and the way he had been acting was as if he was under some kind of spell, staying in a horrible relationship, acting like her slave, and him still wanting to be with her. He started talking to his parents again. He entered therapy. We started having a great friendship, hanging out every weekend. The whole family was relieved that their relationship was over and he was back in our lives. Everyone was happy.

Then my kids told me a story that changed everything. They told me not to tell their dad that I know because they were sworn to secrecy.They said the weekend before the break up, they were hiking down by a river and their dad and his girlfriend were carrying guns (in an area with bears, mountains lions, and such, hence the guns). The girlfriend told my ex that she wanted him to move out. My ex told her he would not. She picked up her gun, pointed it at him with her finger on the trigger and told him if he didn't agree to move out, then she would kill him. My ex hit the gun out of her hand, which landed on a rock and broke the trigger. The girlfriend walked away, leaving my kids crying with their dad. At that time, my ex told them if they told anyone, then the court would take them away and they would never see him again. They kept the secret...until recently.

I was so mad when I learned about this. A woman, who should love and protect my children is hurting them this way by threatening to kill their dad in front of them. And my ex, the person who supposed to protect them from evil, is protecting the person who is evil? Anyway, I do not want to take my children away from their dad. I don't want to be the bad guy. The kids haven't seen her since August so I did not feel the need to say anything since she was out of the picture and they are not in danger currently. However, my ex husband and the girlfriend have decided recently to work on their relationship. I am consumed with fear and worry now. My ex has went back to ignoring me because she will not allow him to talk to me. If I bring it up to him, I know it will have no effect on what happens and I will be called a liar or the bitter ex, or something to that extent, even though he knows the truth. My ex has asked my children recently if they want the ex girlfriend to be in their lives and they told him yes because they were too afraid to tell the truth. My son cries at least three times a week because he is so worried the girlfriend will be there when they go to their dad's house.

For now, my plan is to help my seven year old gain the confidence to tell their dad they do not want her in their lives. However, I am doubtful it will even matter to him, since the gun situation didn't seem to matter to him! I feel as though he chose her over my children. My seven year old told me that he is so happy spending time with his dad now, but when his dad was with the girlfriend, he hated his life. I asked him why he didn't tell me all of this before and he said he knew it would break my heat if I knew what was going on. It did break my heart because I can't believe my sweet, innocent children have to go through this. My four year old would cry on the way to their dad's house every weekend when their dad was with her. Now that the girlfriend has not been around, my four year old is excited to see his dad. It is obvious in their behavior change that they are much happier without her in the picture. Their relationship was toxic and it affected my children greatly. If the plan regarding my son telling his dad how he feels doesn't work and he brings the girlfriend around, it will be a court matter. I will be filing for full custody and pursue a restraining order for my children against the ex girlfriend. The kids are deathly afraid of her. I know that if this happens, my ex will retaliate. I am scared to think about what he will do to me, but I know it has to be done. If he can't protect them, I will! I am just hoping that my son telling him the truth about how he feels will be enough. I think it is a win-win situation for everyone involved.

I can't eat. I can't sleep. I am a mess worrying that the girlfriend will be around my children and my ex will get back together with her. I want to protect them from this evil person. Can anyone please help me? I feel as though I am in limbo, waiting to see if my ex will bring her around and the steps I will have to take in order to get rid of her to keep my children safe. Is there anything I can do now to get rid of her or protect my children? Please help. I'm a wreck.

[Serenitydawn]

Have you been involved in the occult before? Do you have any experience with magick?

[jennyv]

No I do not have any experience, nothing.

[Jack-o-diamonds]

shoot, that situation blows for sure! that's a pretty big thing to be just beginning with........

hoodoo stuff works pretty well for situations like this, where the practitioner is totes new to the occult. i'd say look into some hot-foot spells or some crazy banishings and protection stuff.

[Nahemah]

Their relationship was toxic and it affected my children greatly. If the plan regarding my son telling his dad how he feels doesn't work and he brings the girlfriend around, it will be a court matter. I will be filing for full custody and pursue a restraining order for my children against the ex girlfriend. The kids are deathly afraid of her. I know that if this happens, my ex will retaliate. I am scared to think about what he will do to me, but I know it has to be done. If he can't protect them, I will! I am just hoping that my son telling him the truth about how he feels will be enough. I think it is a win-win situation for everyone involved.

He engaged your kids in deceit by threatening them with consequences of losing their Dad and now you are engaging similarly by putting your son back in a bad situation,where he has to tell your ex what you should be telling him,on the children's behalf.

Your child is too young and too afraid already,in my opinion,to be given such a big task.

You need to get legal help now.Don't wait.Please.

This is an immediate serious concern that requires Police and probably child protection involvement.

I am scared to think about what he will do to me,...

This is also very worrying,is your ex violent?

Please understand that I'm not being judgemental here,I have direct first hand experience in such matters and I feel that this is not a situation which can improve without you getting serious help and quickly.

Get safe first,there is a lot you can do magickally to protect your family and I certainly wish you well and I would be happy to advise on magick later on,but get safe first.

[ElectroConvulsiveJeremy]

I completely agree with Nahemah. A lot of people turn to the occult in times of extreme stress, I would wager that 99.99% of the time this does not turn out well.
Pursue the legal course of action and, as Nahemah said, make your children and yourself safe first. Without any past experience of the occult you should wait until you are in a safe situation and then look at your first occult practices as being of a positive, emotionally stabilizing and uplifting nature.
You are taking control of your life by pursuing a legal course of action, this shows that you are responsible, strong and, above all, a mother who's prime concern is the welfare of her children. Any occult advice I could give you at its very basic level would to right now put those energies into what you are already doing - which is what needs to be done.

[LandOfShadows]

jennyv,

The situation is an odd one, not being their first hand or knowing the person (ex girl friend).

If I was yourself, I would take you ex-husband to one side, and tell him what the children recall and how its upset them, rather than have you Son do it.

Just approach it, by saying "I am slightly concerned, both children have told me the same thing, and they told me seperatley the follow accounts" and tell him what you have told us...

See how he responds...

Tell him that death threats in front of the kids is not acceptable, and you feel very uneasy about her being around them and him, remind him that you care about him and his safety and the kids are worried too.

(I wouldn't mention the Ex calling you names... else it could all turn into a playground mess)... Keep it focused on your ex-husbands safety and your kids and his relationship with the Kids and you... Use the words trust often, avoide the words "Change" and "But"... nobody like change... and if you use the word But, everything you say before is null and void.

For example "I like the fact you and you partner can go out with the kids, but all this other stuff really has me worried", what your really saying is your worried, the part before is a lie/bluff once you add "But" there. So say "I am concerned or have doubts that your new partner is a great role model making threats towards you in front of them, what if that gun went off rather than breaking the trigger, what if you didn't knock it free of her hands, actually I don't want to think about that... all I want to know is the children and you are safe and I can't feel that way knowning what she has done, I don't trust her".

And avoid the word change "So based on the above this needs to change, and it needs to change now".... not good...
User "I hope me and you are on the same page, if this was the other way around how would you feel right now ?, please tell me what would you do if another man place a gun in my face with the children in plain sight ?"...

Then say "Look, I don't want this to become between me and you, or you seeing the children, but your new partner really has me concerned and if she is going to be about I just don't think I can cope with the children being with you and her, this isn't about me trying to seperate you two, I do care about you being safe, so please don't take this out of context".

That's how I would approach it...
Magick, spells and so on... not really a great approach if you want my honest opinion... NLP, neru-logistic programming I feel is better.

And if simply talking resolves nothing, then say to him "that the only course of action is a legal one... but you don't want to go down that route as it could pull the kids into a court room or witness room and cause more upset, with everything going on though its making you feel ill, unable to sleep and eat right over worry about his and the childrens safety, and if that course of action is the only one you would take it if needs be".

If your scared of him as per the quote above, in what he will do to you... if you mean violence... then to behonest I wouldn't speak to him at all, and get the police in right from the off.

LoS