Accidental psychic attack?

[autodydact]

There is someone I will loosely call a friend... He has made me incredibly angry in the past few months for a variety of reasons (selfishness, arrogance, rudeness towards others, insulting behaviour, extreme narrow mindedness... He is psychologically damaging to everyone he is close to). This evening he has particularly enraged me. I am never violent, but I very nearly punched him in the face tonight. He was deeply insulting to several friends as well as myself and well, this was kind of the straw that broke the camels back. I left the bar we were at without notice and went for a walk to calm down, but I was still furious all the way home and on sitting down to my evenings meditation I found myself focusing on him being hurt and humiliated. As soon as I realised, i tried to clear my thoughts again, but they kept coming back until I eventually gave up... In any case, I am concerned that the extremity of my anger and inability to calm myself during meditation may have resulted in some level of unintentional psychic attack. Whilst it would serve him right, I certainly don't wish him any real harm... I just want some advice on any ways I can reverse or minimise any psychic malevolence I may have sent his way...

[Asurendra]

Perhaps these are the exact emotions he is trying to create within you. One reason may be as a method of control. Maybe there are deeper ones as well that he may not even be consciously aware of himself. Speaking personally, I would not allow such a person a place in my life. Life has enough to drag us down without adding more dead weight!

[Nahemah]

I certainly don't wish him any real harm...

This.

Attacks are most effective when the caster is serious about it,so don't think you will have done anything unconsciously that would have any major or lasting negative effects.

Is your friend simply an arsehole or is he reacting badly to stresses or some major life issues?

I agree with Asurendra that some people should be excluded from your life if all they cause is trouble when you are around them. [thumbup]

Next time he irritates you,if there is one,try expressing your annoyance to him at the time,directly.It's much healthier for you and it prevents any accidental magickal misfires later on.Don't repress or dwell.

[autodydact]

Thank you both! Unfortunately he is one of four people (myself excluded) on my university course, so removing him from my life is near impossible. Partially because I have to be in a room with him on a daily basis, and partly because of o were to publicly cut of contact it could cause problems for me.

Asurendra- I hadn't thought of the possibility of me being the victim here... I'll certainly try and put up some psychic shields/do some banishing in case this proves to be the case.

Nahmeh- he's been an arsehole for the three years I've known him, but he seems to have gone from mildly annoying to rage inducing in the past few months. I know he's a heavy drug user and have raised concerns that he is not quite as in control as he thinks...

[autodydact]

Thank you both! Unfortunately he is one of four people (myself excluded) on my university course, so removing him from my life is near impossible. Partially because I have to be in a room with him on a daily basis, and partly because of o were to publicly cut of contact it could cause problems for me.

Asurendra- I hadn't thought of the possibility of me being the victim here... I'll certainly try and put up some psychic shields/do some banishing in case this proves to be the case.

Nahmeh- he's been an arsehole for the three years I've known him, but he seems to have gone from mildly annoying to rage inducing in the past few months. I know he's a heavy drug user and have raised concerns that he is not quite as in control as he thinks...

[Ramscha]

Did any effect occur? [zomg]

[RoseRed]

What an excellent opportunity for you to work on your self control.

Yes, it's annoying and frustrating but we can turn things like this into life lessons and improve ourselves because of or in spite of it.

Obviously, meditation was not enough for you to get this out of your system. Physical activity works wonders to reduce the amount of aggravation you're feeling. Lift weights, go for a run, hit a punching bag - whatever works for you.

It's so easy to 'fling' when we're in that really pissed off state. I commend you for seeing the possibility of it. BUT - here's the thing...

Part of you does want to hurt him. Part of you wants to maintain control of yourself. You were having a moment of divided duality. It's in the space between those extremes that flinging happens.

[autodydact]

Ramscha- I don't know. He's not the sort of person who would mention any if the obvious signs of psychic attack. As I said before, he's a heavy drug user (class a) so it's likely that he would discard anything like that as the effect of a particularly heavy night,

Rosered- Indeed it is. It is almost unheard of for me to be raised to anger, so this is a very rare opportunity for self improvement. I have tried as hard as is possible to not think about him at all, or to try and assuage my anger when he does float into my head.

[RoseRed]

Let me guess - neither one is working, right?

[Mysticwizard452]

One thing you may try,

If you know the Lesser Banishing Ritual of the Pentagram you can try projecting your anger to the south (into a mental/astral image of him) before drawing the pentagram between you. When you see the etheric cord between you and your anger has been cut or burned up by the pentagram finish with the rest of the ritual.

It may take a couple repetitions over time but I have found this method to be highly effective. Don't worry about it being a literal banishing of him. Since you are only doing the projection of his image in the south, corresponding to fire which covers lower emotions (like anger), you will only be banishing that aspect of your relationship. If he is feeding on your anger (consciously or otherwise) this will cut him off from the flow of your emotional energy.

Don't beat yourself up over any stray shots you fired at him psychically. People psychically attack each other all the time without meaning to. Since your taking the effort to restrain yourself from causing harm in this way you're already a step ahead of most people.

[insomni4c]

Trying not to think about it is only going to make it harder not to think about it. There's nothing wrong with being angry as long as you don't consciously act on that anger, ie physical assault or a conscious psychic attack. As long as you don't intend to harm him it's not likely that an accidental psychic attack will be all that damaging. I guess what I'm getting at is that it's important to accept this anger and channel it into something constructive, like perhaps you need to confront him, or if that's out of the question it's a good opportunity to work on self control like some others have mentioned.

[Aardvark]

"I know he's a heavy drug user and have raised concerns that he is not quite as in control as he thinks..."

This right here might be the entire problem, as well as its own solution. When I first started working this job I'm at, there was a guy here that started off very nice, very friendly, but too loud for my taste. I would consider him an ass, but he surely wasn't my kind of person. While I was there, he started drinking more and more, and the more he drank, the more of a problem he became to everyone. It got to the point where he was stealing things and making it look like I had done it. Things got very bad, and it being my source of income for my family, the option to just walk away wasn't really there. A four year old and a wife with a powerful need to eat, meant I had to deal with this guy however I could. He was stressing me out so bad, that I was having physical problems from it. Anxiety attacks, stomach problems, ulcers, etc. And yet, I kept worrying that I was sending him negativity by the thoughts I had about him. Many times the thought occurred to me to curse him or to lie and have him fired, or something of that nature. One night in my meditation something just clicked for me, though. I knew that what he was doing, while stressful for us working with him, was hurting himself more. He became a means to his own end for me. It was only about 8 months later that he got a DUI, stole more money and couldn't hide it, etc. He took care of the problem himself, and all I had to do was learn to be at peace while he did so.